Sunday, November 24, 2013

                                                       CONNECTIONS TO PLAY


“Necessity may be the mother of invention, but play is certainly the father.” ~ Roger von Oech

“The most effective kind of education is that a child should play amongst lovely things.” ~ Plato (Greek philosopher)

I found these quotes to be close to what I hold dearly when thinking of time spent playing as a child.  As a child I enjoyed playing, often by myself as I did not have any siblings when I was young and we lived in the country.  My play partners primarily consisted of my grandparents, my parents and an uncle.  Being an only child until the age of 8 gave me the opportunity to develop a real imagination and take part in imaginative play frequently.  I would dress us my paper dolls and sit quietly for hours emerged in a world with my dolls and the various outfits that I could come up with.  I enjoyed playing the care giver role and always wanted to take care of the babies.  


Living in the country also gave me an opportunity to spend a lot of time playing outside.  I would swing in my swing, ride my bike, bring my dolls outside to have tea parties and much more.  This made me feel closer to nature and I remember spending time after time just taking in the environment and being curious about the world around me.  When I was outside my mother would come out and play with me, sitting under my favorite pine tree.  Life seemed simple and not so rushed back then.  I would walk next door to my grandparents house daily and spend time playing in their house.  Having my family so close gave me a sense of security and belonging that was unique.  They would all stand around outside and watch me ride my inch worm, which I just loved.  As a child we did not have cable television so very little time was spent sitting in front of the t.v.  This allowed time for family and conversations which helped me to gain knowledge and figure out for myself how to do things.



Today's children spend far to much time sitting in front of the t.v from the time they are born.  Parents often use this to entertain their children as life is so busy, dinner must be made, laundry done, left over work from the day ect.  This is becoming a problem in many aspects of children's development from childhood obesity, lack of social development and exposure to violence just to name a few.  In my opinion children are not given adequate play opportunities and parents are not spending the needed time getting to get to truly know their child and building relationships.  As educators I believe it is our responsibility to remind parents of the importance of monitoring the violence in which their children are seeing on t.v.  

Saturday, November 9, 2013

Relationship Reflection

                                           

                                                               Relationship Reflection

One thing in life that I have been very fortunate to have are healthy relationships with many people.  Let me first start by saying that I have been married for 27 years and have a healthy, loving relationship with my husband.  It has taken many years and a lot of work to keep this relationship strong as well as give and take.  At times I have found that you must look a little deeper into a situation when conflict occurs to find out what the real problem truly is.  By identifying the true problem solutions can be formed which helps to build respect within the relationship.

My next important relationship is that of my 3 children who are now ages 25, 23 and 20.  Over the years I have had many trying my times with my children, I would by know means ever say it was easy or always made sense, but somehow the strength of our family always pulled them through their difficult times.  My children know that they can count on me anytime they need me and do not hesitate to ask for advice or explanations of things.  Because of the healthy  relationships that my husband and myself have with our children their relationship is incredibly strong amongst them.   They spend time together regularly and don't hesitate to reach out to one another if they need something.  I also feel that this very special relationships amongst them also reflects the relationship that I have with my siblings.  I am one on six children and all of my siblings live close by.  We get together on a regular basis and we look out for each others children as if they were our own.  When family crisis may occur my children have watched as our family pulls together and makes it through hard times.  I guess I could say that being close to your family was just something that was expected from my children as they grew up and this has affected their adult relationships.

I also have healthy relationships with my students and co-workers.  When challenging times arise I will ask others for solutions to the problems that may be occurring.  By doing so builds a foundation of trust and professional respect, as well as friendships.  The relationships that I have with my students is nurturing and respectful.  My students spend 2 to 3 years in my classroom.  The relationships that I build with my students then carries over to the relationships that I have with their parents.  By establishing healthy relationships parents buy into skills that their child needs to learn.  This typically allows for healthy developmental growth as well as self confidence within the child.

I have always enjoyed being close to so many people and feel that the relationships that I have had in my life has influenced the person that I am today.  I am thankful to have had so many people in my life and continue to work on relationships that I have with them each and every day.